I’ve been reading the simple dollar again, in particular a post about impressing people. It starts like this:
Imagine, just for a moment, that you find yourself on a desert island with just you and four or five of your closest friends and relatives – the people you care about the most in this world. The only people around are the people that care about you.
On this island, you can have whatever house you want and the items you want to have. But you’re just on this island with just the people that care about you. No one else will see you. Judge you. Draw conclusions about you.
Now, am I the only person in the world that thinks that the people who I care most about would in fact judge me?
For example, I would almost certainly include my brothers and sisters in this list of people but if they lived nearby and came round more often, I’d be forced to tidy up the house a lot more. Frankly, I’m lazy and my house can descend into virtual squalour really easily. I don’t want them to see that (they know I’m lazy). And heaven forbid if someone invited my mother.
Similarly, even though my closest friends would love me anyway I don’t think they’d be too impressed with my diet, which has far too much junk food in it.
Maybe, I’m really saying that I’m ashamed of these things and think that I should change. Probably. But I don’t care enough to actually do so. For me, life is too short. I tidy up when people come round, and when I cook for others it’s pretty good. People that love you anyway, will still try to improve you.
Yes, I’m keeping up appearances for the outside world, even my nearest and dearest. What’s the problem with that?
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