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November 19, 2007

you can’t help people if they won’t help themselves

Filed under: philosophical — plonkee @ 12:00 pm

Recently I’ve been talking to a few friends about some issues that they have. As with all such conversations, it’s not really clear if people want to vent or they want help.

It doesn’t really matter either way, because, as it happens, none of these people are interested in changing themselves or their actions. They want other people or circumstances around them to change. In some cases, they’re probably right; it would be fairer if other people changed. But it so isn’t going to happen.

It’s made me think, that I’m kind of doing the same thing. I can’t help them if they (by their actions) won’t help themselves. And I can’t expect them to stop asking for help, I need to change my reactions to them. I probably need to stop offering ideas or solutions, and just listen, empathise and move on.

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